Sugar is a mood killer. A low-vibe soul-sucking dark cloud visitor. A positivity squasher. An energy vampire. Your mean girl BFF that you know you need to get rid of. Your energy stealing, beauty dulling, sweet sweet devil. Sugar is not your friend. She is so sweet and inviting. Charming, and alluring. Her sweetness lures you to her dark side. Where you will crave more and more and feel worse and worse. Try having just a little, you can’t. It’s not her way. She wants to keep you dark and depressed. A siren, who sings only to you (or so you think.) A one-sided relationship that gives just enough, in order to take the rest for herself. We all eat lies when our souls are hungry. One more bite, of this seductive, abusive, relationship. Just one more. She is an expert at meeting her own needs at the expense of yours. She is a charmer, untruthful and manipulative. Devoid of remorse or empathy. Regularly provokes you, and then blames you for falling for it. She makes you feel guilty, and question your own sanity. You are unhappy in this relationship, yet you fear losing it. She is trying to isolate you. I didn’t think that I was in an abusive relationship, I was a strong, educated, independent woman. I would NEVER stay in an abusive relationship, so obviously, I wasn’t in one. Only I was, her name was sugar.
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After my clients today, I headed to Chipotle to get some lunch. When I pulled up to park, I saw two men trying to get the dirt off their boots on the curb by my car. They started towards the door, and took the time to hold the door for me, smile, and let me go ahead of them in line. In that moment, I was deeply affected by their kindness. As they struggled with their English a bit to order, I decided in that moment, that I wanted to buy their lunch. So I did, secretly. The girl that checked me out just smiled, and I ran out of there before I could get found out. I share this story not for the accolades, but to inspire you to do the same. I believe kindness is contagious, and that is a virus worth spreading. Not the other options available in America right now. Choose kindness, when you are moved in the moment, take immediate action, however small. It will shift the energy of the planet.
I used to have an insatiable need to know. I mean, it was bananas. I was vigilant about expending my energy to try and be three steps ahead of everyone in my life. Including, ruminating over each possible outcome to never be taken off guard. It was exhausting. One of the best things I’ve ever heard was “everything you need to know will reveal itself to you without any effort on your part.” that silenced me. It’s like I could finally exhale for the first time in my life. It is what allowed me to release the exhausting and ineffective behavior of needing to know. I now thrive in peace, surrounded by serenity, and allow life to unfold.