Today I invite you to notice the quality of your listening. Do I simply pause until it is my turn to speak again? Do I have a curiosity for a different point of view? Do I interrupt? As I notice the quality of my behavior, I have more desire to change. Here is a little trick. Pretend the other party is about to tell you how to win the lottery. In subtle detail. You would then pay attention, and savor every word. Think of each conversation you engage in as sacred. Hold space for each other. Within each sentence, lies little gifts for you. Take the time to receive them.
Today I wanted to write about a secret mission I created a few months back. I had an older oracle deck that I was no longer using, on self-care. I decided instead of just tossing it, it would be a lot more fun to sprinkle love all over my city. So that’s just what I did. Each day, I would place a card. Sometimes it would be along a walk, or stopping in for my morning coffee. It became such a fun experience for me, leaving little messages of love for strangers who would find them. The idea of giving without being attached to the outcome is a beautiful act of love. How can you give today without being found out?
Be a creator, not a reactor. When you are reacting to circumstances around you, you step out of creating the experience you want. You shift the momentum in the wrong direction. When you decide, it’s as good as yours. It’s all about how you feel. If you feel good, you are headed in the right direction. If you feel bad, you are headed in the wrong direction.
The dark side of getting visible is the haters. The opinionated, unsolicited advice, wrapped in criticism. They will always have something to say about the face you’re making, how you sound weird on film, how you don’t look like that in real life, you look a little chubby on camera, it goes on and on. It might even surprise you who comes out of the woodwork to try and tear you down. Don’t let this faze you. This is just part of it. Part of having the courage to put yourself out there, and share your message with the world. The thing about haters that you need to know, is their opinion, and less than kind behavior, has nothing to do with you. When someones thoughts are distorted by fear, despair, and jealousy, nerves become overwrought. In that state, they can not think clearly, let alone make wise decisions, hence, throwing daggers your way in the form of verbal attacks. This reveals who they are, not who you are. It is an invitation bubbling to the surface for them to accept, if they choose to. An invitation from their soul to do a little inner work, and heal that part of themselves.
Hey y’all I recently did a 7 day journey in to my new album Keeper of Bees on Periscope. I spoke about the inspiration behind each song on the album, and I wanted to invite you over there to experience it, if you haven’t yet. If you are not familiar with Periscope, think Instagram only instead of pictures, it’s live video. All you have to do is download the app on your phone, and you can experience live music from your living room! Just click here so you can join the fun!
Louise Hay is about to turn 90. She did not grow up with a silver spoon in her mouth, not by any means. However, she was willing to take responsibility for the circumstances that were not working in her life, and shift them into the life that she desired. She was willing to do the work. Then pay it forward in the most beautiful way over the years. For everyone that has ever thought “I’m too old” she is great evidence that is hogwash, and simply a shitty belief you are fiercely holding onto. Each new decade Louise stamps by saying “This will be the best of my life” I’m with her.
Welcome friends, to “Keeper of Bees” CLICK HERE TO LISTEN
Recorded at Forge Recording Studio in Oreland, PA by Ron DiSilvestro. Mixed at 12th Street Sound in Austin, TX by Kevin Szymanski. Mastered at Yes Master Studios in Nashville, TN by Jim DeMain assisted by Amy Marie. Album design by Pixelbrand Creative Agency in Canada. CD manufactured at Atomic Disc in Salem, OR. Sachino Tsinadze on cello, and written and performed by yours truly. My beloved album is on it’s way, and will be ready in a few days for you. As you can see, it was touched by several amazing humans over several states. I feel very blessed to be able to make music for a living, and am so excited to introduce you to my latest album in a few short days…
A lovely little exercise that is written about in “The Dark Side of the Light Chasers” by Debbie Ford. Write down the name of a person who affects you at the top of a page. Draw a line down the center of the page. On the left hand side make a list of all the traits you like about this person. On the right hand side make a list of all the traits you dislike about this person. Once your list is complete, write before each item in the left hand column “I love myself when…” and write before each item in the right hand column “I don’t like myself when…” This is a simple way to recognize that what you see in another person is really about you.
I have been reading quite a bit lately, and just started “The Dark Side of the Light Chasers” by Debbie Ford. It grabbed me right away with this beautiful piece, and I wanted to leave it here for you to percolate with for awhile.
“All of your so-called faults, all the things which you don’t like about yourself are your greatest assets,” she said. “They are simply overamplified. The volume has been turned up a bit too much, that’s all. Just turn down the volume a little. Soon, you—and everyone else—will see your weaknesses as your strengths, your ‘negatives’ as your ‘positives.’ They will become wonderful tools, ready to work for you rather than against you.”